As you may know, I listen to books as I drive to Salt Lake and back. This weekend was no exception. Gretchen Rubin has opened my mind to insights that I feel compelled to share with the world because I understand so much more about how I get so much done whereas my son needs my presence to motivate him to accomplish many tasks.
Are you motivated when you want to reach a goal as long as you have good reasons for pushing yourself in that direction? Alternately, if someone is expecting you to do something, such as your boss, are you more likely to focus on that task? Perhaps, like me, both external and internal expectations drive you to work. Then there is my son, a rebel, who works to defy all expectations, including his own desires.
In her book, The Four Tendencies, Gretchen Rubin explains that we each have a tendency guiding how we react to internal and external expectations. She labels these tendencies as Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel. Briefly I’ll explain how this insight has changed the way I work with my son.
I am an Upholder where I follow rules diligently and work hard to meet my own expectations and those of others. Contasting is my son’s tendency to do what he wants to do, similar to other rebels. My latest parenting strategy is guiding him choose to do what needs to be done because rebels won’t work until they choose to. For example, when he had a box full of clean laundry, I encouraged him to put it away in order to enjoy his Super Ev Bed-Time Story from my husband. My son readily agreed, the laundry was put away, my son enjoyed his bed-time story, and importantly, conflict was averted.
What does this have to do with essential oils?
Learning ways to make changes in our lives brings improvements to us both physically (in this case his room was cleaner because the pile of dirty clothes had a place to go when the laundry box was empty) and emotionally (since I follow rules, I enjoy a clean environment to decrease my stress). Essential oils have the power to improve our lives. If you want to try some, comment below or find me on Facebook so we can connect and find ways to help you and your family.